One of my most memorable experiences was dating a guy 20 years older when I was 21. Still, real-life couples rarely have a generation-long discrepancy between them.He was amazing and so much more sophisticated than boys in my university group. Most often in married couples a man is older than a woman.Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.To get a view into the male mind after 60, I sat down with dating coach, Lisa Copeland for a quick chat.Deep anxiety about the ability to have children later in life plagues many women.But the decline in fertility over the course of a woman’s 30s has been oversold. “We’re perpetually fed a line that we’re looking for love in a market that doesn’t value us,” says Marina Adshade, an economics professor in Canada and author of . However, with the gray divorce boom, there are a lot more older people available than ever before.
Now, as we reach our 60s, it’s difficult to put our swords down and just relax a bit. Lisa and I also discuss the perception that men only want to date younger women.
Research on age difference in couples suggests that while the desired gap for men and women is around 13-14 years on average (10-15 years), as specified in their partner preferences on online dating sites, in reality long-term pairs only have 3-4 years disparity.
The research data may be surprising, but it makes sense.
The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.
That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.